I kept asking why she was so upset and halfway through she started opening up about herself and her past.
She had abusive parents and a rough time in High School where she got into drug and alcohol use.
It makes lots of sense in the jungle, but focusing your attention like a laser beam on a potential relationship partner can spell doom. ” — confident that you’re not going to say, “You look ridiculous,” and waiting for you to shower praise and affection all over them. Lest you think you can say enough kind things to eventually create a self-assured person, beware. Certainly not the friends who love you and will probably forgive you for dumping them. The problem is that dating a person who puts their entire life on hold for you…is creepy.
Desperate daters are scared that they are going to be dumped. “I know I usually go to Las Vegas with my friends for March Madness but I just want to be with you.” It can be a lot of pressure being the center of someone’s universe, and you start to wonder about key traits – like loyalty and dependability – that can have a big impact on whether you choose to pursue a long term relationship someone. Books have been written on the topic of “settling.” What is settling? And a quick perusal of the e Harmony Advice community shows volumes of thought and debate on the topic.
Mike told me that he keeps asking her out - and even invited her to Mother's Day brunch (huh? [Side note - people usually want to spend Mother's Day with their own mother ... especially when you are not even dating.] Anyway, Mike could not get Antoinette to go out with him at all - and it appeared to me that she wouldn't go out with him because he kept up with his full-court press all the time.