Many of us are taught from an early age that talking about race – even just acknowledging race – is a no-no.
Some individuals very knowingly invalidate others as a form of manipulation, control, and psychological injury.
They’ll leave a conversation feeling much different than they did at the start, questioning themselves.
Being human, most of us have been on both sides of these comments. You may be carrying a legacy of invalidating that is still taking too much from you.
Hopefully, we catch ourselves, our partner gives us a “WHAT? If you think it is possible – here are some Strategies For Changing: Re-consider — The Familiar Sometimes we are unaware of the way we sound or the impact of our message because it is the way people have always communicated with us. Observe Self and Impact on Other If your intent is good but your partner is clearly upset or looks embarrassed – allow yourself a second or third take: “Let me try this again – What I am saying is that we have to make a decision this week about the trip.
So critical in fact, that parenting experts report that it’s one of the most important things a parent can do to foster healthy psychological development in their children (Read: The Power of Validation by Karyn D. Denying someone’s feelings and emotional experience can make them feel like they’re going insane!